In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Ever Merciful…
There are two important narrations from our mother, the noble Companion, ‘Aa’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her), which every Muslim should keep in mind as the last ten nights of Ramadan approach:
إِذَا دَخَلَ الْعَشْرُ: أَحْيَا اللَّيْلَ، وَأَيْقَظَ أَهْلَهُ، وَجَدَّ وَشَدَّ الْمِئْزَرَ
“When the [last] ten [nights of Ramadan] began, he would stay up all night, wake his family, get [even more] serious, and tighten his lower garment.”
This hadeeth was collected by al-Bukhaaree (2024) and Muslim (1174).
In another authentic narration, she asked about what she should say if she were to reach Laylat al-Qadr, the Night of al-Qadr, and so the Messenger of Allah (may Allah raise his rank and grant him peace) told her to say:
اللَّهُمَّ إِنَّكَ عَفُوٌّ، تُـحِبُّ الْعَفْوَ، فَاعْفُ عَنِّـي
“O Allah! You are indeed One who pardons; You love to pardon, so pardon me.”
This hadeeth was collected by Ahmad, at-Tirmithee, and others. See: Silsilat al-Ahaadeeth as-Saheehah (no.3337).
RESOURCE: Listen & memorize this brief supplication. (MP3)
Additionally, the following Friday khutbah from 1438 may provide some helpful encouragements, by Allah’s Permission:
Seeking Out Laylat al-Qadr in the Last Ten Nights (MP3)
Prepared by: Moosaa Richardson (1443.09.21)
As-Salamu-Alaykum Ustadh
I would like some advice regarding forgiveness. A person who is very dear to me has upset me deeply. Some time has passed, yet still, at times I struggle to cope. At times I feel like the last bit of life in me is leaving my body when I remember certain incidents. The negative baggage weighs me down and affects my health. I am anxious. I cry often. My body is frequently in the flight mode. I struggle to feel or accept that I am loved, despite these incidents. When I turn to Allaah, I say I can’t do this anymore and I beg Allaah to make the pain go away. Shaytaan fills my head with whispers reminding and reminding me, over and over of these sad incidents. I seek refuge in Allaah each time, but he does not stop. He tries again and again. I have heard many reminders about forgiveness this month, but how does a person learn to forget? How do they become free of these things? It scares me when I fall into these holes with dark thoughts. I struggle to come out of them. At times I feel like I am just about coping with my life. I ask Allaah to forgive us all, rectify our lives and cure us all from any afflictions upon us Aameen.
Wa ‘alaykum as-Salaamu wa rahmatullaah. This entire course will help you tremendously, in shaa’ Allah: 20 Keys to Patience with the Harms of the People by Shaykh al-Islaam Ibn Taymiyah! https://www.spreaker.com/show/20-keys-to-patience
As Salaamu alaykum wa rahmatullaah. May Allaah aid and rectify our and your situation ameen. No doubt these short lessons on 20 Keys to Patience is extremely beneficial and highly recommended. Beautiful delivered lessons by our noble brother and Ustad Abul-Abbas حفظه لله