{"id":6354,"date":"2021-10-24T20:56:25","date_gmt":"2021-10-25T00:56:25","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.bakkah.net\/en\/?p=6354"},"modified":"2021-10-24T21:14:08","modified_gmt":"2021-10-25T01:14:08","slug":"self-issued-verdicts-nullifying-one-of-the-three-divorces-after-final-separation-has-occurred","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.bakkah.net\/en\/self-issued-verdicts-nullifying-one-of-the-three-divorces-after-final-separation-has-occurred.htm","title":{"rendered":"Self-Issued Verdicts: Nullifying One of the Three Divorces After Final Separation Has Occurred"},"content":{"rendered":"

In the Name of Allah, the Most Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy…<\/em><\/p>\n

QUESTION<\/strong> posed to the virtuous Shaykh, Dr. Arafat al-Muhammadi<\/strong>, may Allah preserve him, from his brothers\u00a0at al-Masjid al-Awwal<\/a>, in the city of Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, in the United States of America. [1]<\/p>\n

As Salaamu \u2018Alaikum wa Rahmatullaahi wa Barakaathu\u2026\u00a0<\/em>There has occurred in America, where there are no Islamic courts, instances of a man who divorces his wife with the third legislated divorce, and he takes witnesses to that effect, and then he desires to return to his wife that he has irrevocably divorced so he thinks about the number of divorces that he has issued and cancels one of them having decided this for himself, without returning the matter to the People of Knowledge, nor to those able to judge correctly in the affair, that it is permissible for him to continue to live with his wife by taking her back, or marrying her with a new contract, or simply returning to her as if nothing ever happened. Many of these husbands claim that one of the three divorces was incorrect (did not take effect) due to his anger, and then he and his wife mutually agree that only two divorces actually occurred; thus, they return to marital life despite having taken members of their community as witnesses to the third and final irrevocable divorce. This is done in opposition to the advice given to them by their teachers in the Islamic Centers (of their city) and the responsible parties therein (i.e. masjid administrators). So, what is your advice to these men and women who are in this circumstance? What advice do you have for the Islamic centers there (dealing with these issues)? How do they (administrators) handle such evil occurrences? May Allah reward you with good.<\/p>\n

Masjid Administration<\/em><\/p>\n

ANSWER:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Wa \u2018Alaikum Salaam wa Rahmatullaahi wa Barakaatuhu\u2026<\/em><\/p>\n

We say to these individuals that they must fear Allah within their own selves and be aware of Him; for whomsoever seeks to deceive Allah, then Allah deceives them. This woman is no longer permissible for him until she marries another husband. [2] Whoever does this knowing within himself that he has issued a third divorce, then he is now upon zinaa<\/em> (adultery), and refuge with Allah is sought! So do not embark upon, through trickery and deceit, what Allah has made forbidden as, indeed, these are the traits of the Jews \u2013 those who engaged in trickery\/deceit in order to make lawful what Allah made unlawful. And Allah knows best. And all success lies with Allah alone.<\/p>\n

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\n\u0648\u0628\u0627\u0644\u0644\u0647 \u0627\u0644\u062a\u0648\u0641\u064a\u0642.<\/p>\n

Additional Benefits on the Topic of Playing Around with the Number of Divorces<\/strong><\/p>\n

Shaykh Muhammad bin Saalih al-\u2018Uthaymeen<\/strong> \u2013 may Allah have mercy upon him \u2013 said:<\/p>\n

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This is because people play games nowadays, such that a layman will come to you saying that he divorced his wife while she was menstruating ten years ago! So, you tell him: That divorced certainly took effect. He responds by saying: It was a divorce that happened whilst she was on her menses, so it is an innovated divorce (i.e. attempting to make the case that it did not take effect)! He says this whilst he is a layman who doesn\u2019t know his left from his right [3], but rather this is due to hawaa<\/em> (desires).<\/p>\n

So, is it possible that we can issue verdicts like these (i.e. following desires), and we say to him: Your divorce did not happen?! The answer is that this is not possible as we have a responsibility before us that we will be asked about on the Day of Judgment. Rather, we say: This is what you\u2019ve forced upon yourself! What do you think if she were to have completed her waiting period from that divorce and then married another man, would you go to that man and say: \u201cThis is my woman\u201d? The answer is that he wouldn\u2019t say that. Therefore, since he forced this upon his own self, how can we then open the way up for him? [4]<\/p>\n

The shaykh also said:<\/p>\n

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And complacency has occurred in our present time when verdicts that divorcing a menstruating woman does not take effect were issued by some scholars, and I am from them. People have become complacent and have started to play around (with this issue). Now comes a man who divorced his wife twenty years ago, and then divorced her again ten years later, and then divorced her again this year \u2026 how many is this now? What? Three. And the laymen, O gathering of good, the laymen have become scholars of Fiqh in the matters of divorce! Scholars of Fiqh! By Allah, one of them comes seeking my verdict (asking): By Allah, what do you say about the first divorce that took place during menstruation? What do you say about it? It didn\u2019t take effect. Cancel it! [5] What about the second divorce that happened when she was in a state of purity during which he had intercourse with her? What about that? Cancel it! The third (divorce) that was done whilst in a state of extreme anger, what about that? It never took effect. Cancel it! Thus, (in this way) his wife never actually becomes divorced.<\/p>\n

Yet, I know with certainty that, if she had married another man after her first waiting period expired, her husband wouldn\u2019t say to her second husband: \u2018This is my wife! Why did you marry her?!\u2019 Never! But when the affair became difficult upon them, they resorted to trickery\/deceit! Thus, due to this (these games that are played), in order to teach people a lesson, it would be good if we were to enforce the divorce that happens during menstruation as having taken effect. [6]<\/p>\n

Points of Reflection:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Sadly, this issue of playing games with the number of divorces issued has begun to plague our Salafi communities. As Shaykh Ibn \u2018Uthaymeen \u2013 may Allah have mercy upon him \u2013 mentioned, this trickery and deceit is often resorted to once the situation has become untenable for the couple. When these husbands finally realize that they\u2019ve destroyed their marriage by whimsically issuing divorce after divorce, they now do everything they can to cancel one of previously issued divorces; even when they\u2019ve taken witnesses to these divorces. It has reached such a state that some of these men take witnesses that a third and final irrevocable divorce has occurred, and then weeks, sometimes even months later, with the agreement of their desperate (former) wives, simply cancel one of the previously issued divorces so as to skew the numbers and allow for them to stay together. This lowly state of affairs has been reached due to a number of reasons:<\/p>\n

Lack of knowledge.<\/strong> Divorce in Islaam is an intricate issue and rightfully so as the well-being of the family unit is often at stake. Divorce is a process, and it does not happen instantly. Meaning, a man doesn\u2019t pronounce divorce and then walk out on his wife and children leaving them to fend for themselves. Or, even worse, a man doesn\u2019t pronounce divorce and then proceed to put his wife out on the street! Rather, there are a number of stages within the divorce process set in place to ensure that rights and obligations are met and fulfilled. The exact time when a man may pronounce divorce upon his wife, the purpose of and regulations related to the \u2018Iddah<\/em> or waiting period, how to rescind a legally issued divorce, the taking of witnesses, the number of allowable divorces, etc., all of these matters have lofty goals and objectives and, as such, are detailed and defined by the Quran and the Sunnah. If a husband is ignorant of these matters, it is incumbent upon him to seek knowledge of them before embarking upon divorce lest he later falls into regret and sin!<\/p>\n

Lack of humility.<\/strong> It\u2019s often the case that the problems within the marriage that lead to divorce can often be resolved through marital counselling services offered within one\u2019s local Salafi community. Yet, time and time again, we find that many husbands are reluctant to cooperate with obtaining arbitration and counseling whereby they may receive beneficial advice and develop skills that will aid them in establishing a harmonious marriage by Allah\u2019s Permission. Instead of seeing these services as an opportunity to heal the marriage and grow as a spouse, they view them as a sign of weakness. For some husbands, they\u2019d sooner watch their marriages descend into utter chaos than to exert a bit of humility and ask for help.<\/p>\n

Control.<\/strong> Some husbands use divorce as a way to control a wife that they have failed to learn how to live with harmoniously. Instead of learning how to identify what lies at the heart of the marital discord, and making sincere efforts to remedy it, they threaten their wives with divorce and execute those threats when the wife will no longer tolerate their oppression. When a third divorced has been issued, they simply cancel one of the previous divorces in order to continue to use divorce as a weapon of control.<\/p>\n

To such husbands, we reiterate what our scholars have said: Fear Allah within your own selves and be mindful of Him at all times! Stop playing games with the religion of Allah and do not oppress your wives simply because you can! Know that playing around with the number of divorces issued may cause one to commit zinaa<\/em> \u2013 and refuge with Allah is sought! Be mindful of the Day when you will return to your Lord and be asked about your actions!<\/p>\n

And Allah knows best.<\/p>\n

Translation and additional points of reflection by Aboo \u2018Abdil-Fattaah Salaah Brooks, Imaam of al-Masjid al-Awwal in Pittsburgh<\/em><\/p>\n

rev.mr.uq<\/em><\/p>\n

FOOTNOTES <\/strong>(by the translator):<\/p>\n

[1]\u00a0Question asked to the shaykh via email on 1443\/03\/10 (2021\/10\/16) with his response issued same day.<\/p>\n

[2]\u00a0Meaning: with a legitimate Islamic marriage and divorce having taken place.<\/p>\n

[3]\u00a0The expression has been translated to reflect the intended irony. (MR: Otherwise, the original idiomatic expression translates literally, “He does not know the inside of his wrist from the outside of it.”)<\/em><\/p>\n

[4]\u00a0The shaykh\u2019s explanation of al-Arba\u2019een<\/em>, pp.127-128<\/p>\n

[5]\u00a0The individual is asking the shaykh to rule that these instances of divorce did not count.<\/p>\n

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